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Social Skills for older kids

Review - What four things do you need to be part of a group?

  • Eyes
  • Ears
  • Body
  • Brain
  1. PRACTICING SHARING AND LABELING FEELINGS - Verbalizing a fond memory of the day and something they would choose not to happen again (High-Low)
  2. USING THE FEELING THERMOMETER - Ranking the size of each problem given
  3. HOW TO PRETEND THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN A TOPIC THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS TALKING ABOUT - Ask a question or add a thought
  4. HOW TO CHANGE THE TOPIC THAT IS BEING DISCUSSED TO YOUR SPECIAL INTEREST TOPIC - Find a bridge from their topic to your topic. Example: The other person is talking about how hard the math class is this week. The child adds a thought to the math topic or asks a math topic question. After the other person answers or responds, your child comments, "You know what else is hard, Excite Trucks on the Wii."
  5. Generalizing activities/social unstructured time to apply what has been learned.
    • What is the size of the problem if you don't get to go first?
    • What is the size of the problem if you don't like the treat or drink that is served?
    • Keeping track of your eyes, ears, body, & brain (Are you still in the group)

HOMEWORK: PLEASE USE THE FEELING THERMOMETER AT HOME. USE STICKY NOTES OR PAPER AND TAPE TO THE THERMOMETER. IF YOU REMEMBER, PLEASE HAVE YOUR CHILD BRING IT TO CLINIC NEXT WEEK SO THEY CAN SHARE WITH THE GROUP

One way the thermometer could be used this week:(i.e.,You serve something for dinner that is not their favorite and they start to whine. Pull out the thermometer and ask them if it is a big problem or a little problem. Reinforce that it might feel big, but really compared to real BIG World problems, this is just a little problem) If they change the way they are thinking about the situation, positively reinforce the heck out of it!

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